By Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach
Feeling good about your life involves just 2 parts.
Really! One is to learn to think about yourself in
healthy ways. This is a learned skill, ladies and
gentlemen, not something that a lucky few were born
with. The second involves "making things happen".
Seeing yourself being successful - at anything! -
builds the blocks of contentment.
Use these 10 ideas to help you feel good about your
life, starting today.
1. Never stop questioning. Every time you feel
frustrated with a task, ask yourself, "How does this
task fit in with my ultimate goals?" "How can I do
this better, faster, easier, simpler, and even more
2. Don't give up on life. Be interested and curious
about yourself and about others. Don't assume that's
"just the way it is". Look for the choices behind your
3. Accept your weakness. Don't deceive yourself by
thinking you're the only one with difficulties in their
life. Everybody has them (yes, everybody!). Instead
of spending your time and energy trying to
"overcome" your weakness, make friends with it and
make it work for you. Where would NYPost
Columnist Liz Smith be without her "weakness" for
4. Don't stop learning. The brain is a muscle just
like any other, and it will stagnate if you let it. Make
it your rule to learn something new every day. Then
USE what you learn to make your life better.
5. Expect nothing; expect the best. Paradox? No. It
just means that you don't want to miss out on what's
wonderful in your life right now, while you spend all
your time peeking around the next corner.
6. Don't lie to yourself.. Telling lies to yourself is
the most harmful form of disrespect. Write out ways
in which you are untruthful to yourself, and how to
correct it. "I will no longer pretend that overspending
my budget is ok".
7. Nurture what you want to grow. Many many
people are (figuratively) wondering where the roses
are in their life, yet they spend all their time planting
and nourishing weeds. You reap what you sow.
That's just the way it is.
8. Don't live in the past. Let go of things that are
draining you. There's nothing in the past that you can
change or correct -- that can only be done in the
present. Use Today. Today, change what you need to
change, and move on to feeling good about your life.
9. Swim with the current. Don't waste your time
complaining about what you can't control (weather,
other people, economy). Concentrate on what you
CAN control, like who you hug, what you read, how
much you laugh, where you go, what you do, what
you think about.
10. Stand like a Rock. You know what's right for
you --be willing to stand up for what's right for you.
Professional Life Coach Kathy Gates is the author of
several e-books and e-courses designed to help people
live happier, healthier, easier lives. Sign up for her
ezine, "Make It Happen" at www.reallifecoach.com.